Anger is powerful. Those who use it explosively become addicted to the effect it has on those around them. It is dangerously unpredictable and most people respond to it by withdrawing to a safe distance.

Those who use it enjoy its intoxicating quality of making them feel right and everyone else wrong. It makes them feel strong and everyone else weak; it makes them feel in  control of their lives. However, anger is like a drug: it only masks reality for a short time. Very often it only makes things far worse than they were before.

Not everyone uses anger explosively. Anger can be cold, calculating and outwardly hidden—until it strikes. Often this anger works at revenge by a thousand paper cuts; the cold shoulder, sarcasm, pointed humour and gossip are a few favourites. Cold anger can become a way of life; it is often critical and discontented.

Anger is our displeasure. When we don’t get what we want we get angry. It is closely connected with wanting to be in control of our lives. We get angry with God, people, and ourselves. Managing anger is not the answer; it is too volatile to be managed. Victory over anger comes from accepting that God is in control of your life and being willing to accept his will. You are not the centre of the universe, so it’s not about what you get out of life but what you give.

Anger is quenched by love. Forgiving someone that you are angry with removes the debt they owe you: an apology and something that will satisfy your sense of revenge. Forgiveness releases you from being owed something by someone. When Jesus was being nailed to the cross he prayed, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they do.” With Christ’s help you can love even your enemies. You don’t have to be angry anymore.

If you would like more help to overcome anger in your life then listen to the messages found at http://www.godsgap.net/anger. the Rev